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COLOMBO : Every child has several stages of growth. The growth pattern is similar among different children. Raising kids is one of the toughest and most fulfilling jobs in the world, and the one for which you might feel the least prepared.
Nevertheless, there are some effective ways to build yourself as an authoritative parent , by uplifting your child’s Self-esteem . you can be one of the laudable person in his / her life. Children begin to develop their sense of self as babies, when they observe themselves through their parent’s eyes. Your body language, your voice as well as your expressions.
Acclaim accomplishments, howsoever small, will make them feel proud. Letting them do things by themselves will make them feel capable and strong . And it is most important to have parental responsiveness the term that which parents respond to the needs of their children that can be physical ,mental or an emotional. The child who is facing an ignorance from his / her parent later developing the difficulty to differentiate between right and wrong, as he / she was never given the option to choose , nor they don’t know to express their feelings.
We clearly know that often times our parenting method is unintentional and there isn’t an approach or strategy that is being applied. It even differs from day to day . for instance, when we’re stressed out from a long day, we’re much quicker to yell and punish poor behavior. Whereas if you’ve had a low stress day you may be “ go with the flow “ and lenient with rules. This is completely normal for a parent.
Rather than punishments, the manner of correcting a child’s mistake replace it with positive enforcement. Always remember, bad behavior does not make the child a bad child, Behavior is a response to something that the child is dealing with. As a parent you should address the root cause before pointing the defiant behavior . Encourage them to come to speak to you if they need anything and when they dp come to you with stories, sit back and listen to them attentively, “When we feel heard we’re more receptive to others and will be the good listener”
